...it's about them.
If I hear that phrase one more time, I am going to puke. What it means is, midwives do this for the women we serve...it's all about the women.
Ok, yes, I care a great deal about the women I provide care for. I want them to have a wonderful, fulfilling pregnancy and birth. I want them to have the journey they envision. These things are the top priority when providing care for women.
But I am a midwife, a mother, a wife, a daughter. Those women are not my top priority in the rest of my life...and yes, I think I have a life outside of midwifery. Granted, midwifery is still a very large part of my life.
I get tired of hearing "you don't go into midwifery to get rich", you don't become a midwife if you want to make money". SCREW YOU! I became a midwife because I love it and couldn't imagine doing anything else. But why can't I make enough money to support myself and my family without struggling paycheck to paycheck? I can't help it if my husband has a horrible heart condition and can either work or can go to school but not both. I think it sucks that we midwives are so willing to suffer and forsake what we deserve because we are so friggin' 'altruistic'. Check out this post Rambling part 2
I realize that others have it far worse - I try to remind myself when I get frustrated, aggravated...