Someone anonymous posted a comment that had me really thinking how many women don't get the basic premise that their body is theirs!
"As someone who is about to have her first child in a geographic location where I am utterly guaranteed to have never seen the person delivering my baby until they glove up, I appreciate the familiar. I feel empowered when I know there are things I can rely on. Touring the hospital enivornment and getting to know the policies that will ultimately dictate my options has helped me to feel confident about things I can and cannot change and that has helped me build confidence in myself. "
To Anonymous and any other woman:
Your body belongs to you. Even in labor and birth, your body belongs to you. No one can force you to anything you don't want to do. That is assault. You can say NO. You cannot be spanked, punished, or disciplined because you chose to say NO. Your doctor, or whoever, is not your daddy or your mommy. You can say NO. It's not always easy but you can do it. And if you at all have a choice, find a provider who will have a partnership with you...not a dictatorship. You are in control.
I'm amazed at how often I have to remind women that they are in control. I tell her, you don't have to ask if the baby can stay on your chest after the birth. This really sparks some interesting thoughts on gender differences. But I am really tired right now and am not sure I can wrap my brain around that now...so more later maybe.