One of the midwives I work with says that we should be careful about agreeing to be at a woman's birth even if we aren't on call. She wonders if we are disempowering women by doing that. She feels that we should be instilling the confidence in women that they can birth no matter who is there.
I agree with that. But I think it's also important that women feel comfortable with whomever shows up for birth. We are fortunate in that all the midwives in the practice are on the same page in terms of philosophy of birth. But we all have different personalities and attract different types of people. Is it so wrong to want to be there with a woman you have bonded with throughout her pregnancy...and that she wants you there? Would I really be disempowering her by making that committment? I just don't think so.
I'd really like to hear from others on this subject!